Do you ever read ‘The Happiness Hypothesis’ by Jonathan Haidt?
if not i will make some conclusion for that book for a little, sorry if it’s too short and too brief.
Haidt had compare our thinking methods as elephant and its rider, elephant for the emotion part, and rider for reason part.
if you want to do something or change some behave or try to convince others, the thing you must should make both elephant and rider go to the same path.
if only rider (the reason) goes with you, in the long run that will last not long, but if both elephant and rider go together, the rate of successful able raise dramatically.
to do that you should set that goal that easy to see, archive able and obvious easy step to step.
ok that the next goal i will do soon.