after read Mark Manson’s book; it’s appeared that this seem fits on ACT more than I ever think. He (Manson) say about values and metrics (something to measure how successful you are), compare to Harris, values and goals, quite near the same thing. noticeable that some parts of Harris values intended on persistent and self-developed by the ways Manson said about some values that you should not use. Pleasure this one is the worse value to take with, by the Manson’s term. when you use pleasure as value on your live you will avoid pain and this is most horrible. pain meant something for sure and almost represent “Truth”. so avoid pain is same as avoid truth in life. ...

last blog, i talk about what really in the book, but this one is only my pure opinions. firstly, when he said that, “life is the daring adventure or nothing”: it’s always like choosing side, that also seem like you can choose nothing at all. secondly, value in this book, in my opinion separated to: 1. skill set both physical and mental included linguistics. 2. emotion handling - connection handling 3. open-ness 4. rule and authority following included organizing (internal rules and external rules) 5. contribution 6. Persistence most values are mixed values, so you can find sometimes all your six values put in the same direction. so he did make advice to put 2 values in your 6 main; persistent and self-development. ...

this book is in the series of 3 books on set of Happy Trap, Confident Gap, and Reality Slap. in case you don’t know the writer name Dr. Russ Harris is the ACT Acceptance and commitment therapy based Psychologists. about this book, he said about confident have 2 meaning, your thought and your act, and confident never meant you were out of fear. lack of confident meant that 1. lack of skill or competent 2. lack of practical 3. too overwhelm is emotion ...

reading “the confident gap” and love to share some resource, this table also already shared in this page but i like to do it in the way to easier fill all the data. in case you want the quick preview of what it is, listed below is value for you to select V= very important, Q = quite important, and N = not so important. after you fill all of that (and in case you have more value than this fill in till you satisfy) put 6 most very important values 6 in special column, please notice that you can place only six 6’s. ...

3 steps of angry. 1. i am angry. 2. i feel angry. 3. i knew i feel angry, and this feeling slide down to my shoulders. now i appreciated this feeling, but it’s not part of me. 3 steps of depressed 1. i am depressed. 2. i feel i’m depressed. 3. i knew i’m depressing, and that meant i’m expecting something and the outcome is not what i expected to be. ...

it’s hk movies. love some quote so i show them here. “Life. It’s an endless game of being left for dead and born anew. If you can’t get it, it wasn’t yours to have. You can’t let go because you’re not willing to. Losing love hurts, but losing someone who doesn’t love you, where’s the tragedy in that? You can still fall in love with someone else. " " It’s said that Destiny like a chunk of ice. ...

Listen Son, I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little hand crumpled under your cheek and blonde curls sticky over your wet forehead. I have broken into your room alone. Just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily, I came to your bedside. There are things which I am thinking, son; I had been cross to you. I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you gave your face a mere dab with the towel. I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes. I called out angrily when you threw some of your things on the floor. ...

sometimes and many of time i feel that i do feel angry, mad, worry for something that already passed. i called that emotion investment: for plenty of time that investments were sunk cost, you do feel stress without do anything better. what done is done, bygone cannot change. so how ever do invest your emotion in the right places. look forward for what consequence with ease and do best to go next step, better than worry for what done and what still not.

_“The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry.”_ A Farewell to Arms ― Ernest Hemingway